My Top 10 List

As I've said before, I don't have a list of what the perfect man will be (or not be) but there are a few things that I would expect:

1. Attractive. This is my biggest issue with online dating. A picture just doesn't give me enough information for me to decide if this is someone I am attracted too, there's definitely more that goes into it than looks. However, it's a start.
2. No smoking. I don't think I need to elaborate on this one.  Non-smokers, you understand.
3. Responsible.  I'm in my 30s now. I'm not looking for someone who is still living at home, not capable of holding a long term job, or who lives beyond their means. Even with my chaotic life I still have those things going for me.
4. Single. I am not looking for drama.  If he's not single, I'm not interested.
5. Honest and Trustworthy. I think this is reasonable to expect from anyone and should go without saying.  Unfortunately, I'm not sure that it always does.
6. Fun (and funny). I love to laugh. If he isn't going to join me in this, I might have to grow up too fast and that just doesn't sound like fun.
7. Active. I don't need him to have a soccer player physique (although, that wouldn't hurt) but I do want someone that is going to be able to keep up.
8. Versatile. I enjoy playing in the mud and rain as much as going to a museum or wine tasting. I need him to be comfortable with it all.  Even if not at first, he should at least be willing to try.
9. Easy-going. My family is intense to say the least and I can be too. I want someone that won't be perturbed by it all.
10. Intelligent and Interesting. This goes to the whole conversation thing.  As in, I want one.  A good one that is more than just you listening to me prattle on or vice versa.  I love learning, even now years past school. I may not remember everything I learn, but it doesn't diminish my desire to learn more.

Ok, one more:  11. I want to have a spark.  I don't expect fireworks but I want to connect to the person. It's a lot to ask and it sets the bar pretty high with that requirement alone, but I've found it before and I hope to find it again.